YWCA Mount Desert Island
is Here For You.

We’re glad you’re here.
It takes courage to ask for help.

In Crisis?

NextStep Domestic Violoence Project
Help Number:
1-800-315-5579

Maine's Sexual Assault Support Center:
1-800-871-7741

Identify Abuse ↘

This is the first step. Ask yourself if any of these signs point to your relationship health.

Red Flags

Unhealthy Relationship Checkpoints

Does your partner…

  • Get jealous easily or accuse you of having an affair?

  • Have abuse in family history?

  • Throw objects at you or destroy your property?

  • Make you account for every moment you are away?

  • Restrain you?

  • Ridicule you?

  • Threaten to hurt you, your children, or your pets?

  • Manipulate you with lies or promises?

  • Threaten to or force you to have sex?

  • Make you feel you don’t have the right to say “no” or disagree?

  • Isolate you from family, friends, work?

  • Make all the decisions in the home for you?

  • Have previous contact with the justice system?

  • Control all of the money?

  • Have weapons?

Green Flags

Healthy Relationship Checkpoints

Does your partner…

  • View you as an equal?

  • Respect you and treat you fairly?

  • Make you feel safe (emotionally and physically)?

  • Discuss disagreements peacefully?

  • Allow the relationship to go at your pace?

  • Act as a positive role model for your children?

  • Value your opinions?

  • Communicate openly and honestly?

  • Support your goals in life?

  • Make family and money decisions together with you?

  • Compromise?

  • Have a positive image of family?

  • Make your friends and family feel comfortable?